“If you challenge a narcissist’s delusional world of power and control with the truth of who they really are, expect them to retaliate with lies and slander. They will try to destroy your character so that you will never be believed.” – Anne McCrea
In an article that came out the other day on MrsMusing, an “Anonymous” parody website of the celebrity bully-blog better known as MissMusing, which is also owned and operated by the founder of the Light Up Yellow Campaign (formerly known as the RIP Cpl. Nathan Cirillo Facebook page), it was revealed that I have been the unfortunate victim of cyber-bullying, something that up until now, I haven’t talked all that much about, mainly because I didn’t want to upset my family, who unfortunately, are still susceptible to the pain and punishment that my own reputation might sustain as a result of trying to stand up for what I believe is right. This, I suppose, is the downside of being me. Or worse yet… of knowing me.
As many people are aware, I recently wrote a book called SOCIOPATRIOT, which outlines the controversy of the above mentioned, as well as the unbelievable cyber-bullying history (as told by her many other victims) of a lonely, insecure, abusive and ruthless liar. But hey, anything to make a buck, right?
When I first encountered [Let’s call her Evelyn Smoothwater for now], I was doing some research into her background, based on some concerning accusations that she had made, as I tried to figure out exactly who this person was, and why they started up a memorial page and fundraiser on behalf of Nathan Cirillo. It was during this research that I came across a tweet of hers that stated: “Fuck with me, and I’ll fuck with your livelihood.”
Kind of a weird thing to say from someone running a memorial charity page, but oh well, I thought.
Further into my research, it became quite apparent to me that Evelyn had a long and shocking history of cyber-bullying and getting people fired from their jobs (she likes to brag about it), simply because they either challenged her on one of her many deluded opinions, or worse yet, they attempted to expose Evelyn for the monster that she really is – a person who latches herself onto national tragedies, exploiting vulnerable emotions for the sole purpose of gaining traffic (income) to her website. It was also proven that she had attempted to raise money via GoFundMe on behalf of the Cirillo family (people she obviously never knew), but thanks to many concerned followers (now victims), Evelyn was quickly exposed for her fraudulent behaviour – defined as a deliberate deception in order to secure an unfair or unlawful gain. Of course, I wouldn’t be saying any of this if it couldn’t be proven. And it has been.
But anyway, back on topic… the following are just a few of the things that Evelyn has personally tried to say about me or members of my family in an effort to either scare me or undermine my credibility as a writer, a father, a grandfather, a teacher, a coach, a martial artist, and a longstanding volunteer in my community. But mainly, she’s just trying to get me to go away and take what I know about her with me.
On October 16, 2015, I received an anonymous message via Twitter that said: “Hello James. Give Jacob [my son] and Julie [my wife] my regards. It has been some time now. Hope the family is well.” This was sent from a person calling themselves @truthseeking31. It was also sent to me immediately following a similar sounding message from @missmusingdotca, which coincidentally stated: “We know all about Jacob. And Julie. Wonder what the Prince of Wales would think? Or the Queen.”
For those of you who don’t know, the “Queen” reference, although badly misused, pertains to the Queen’s Landing, a famous hotel in beautiful Niagara-on-the-Lake, Ontario. It also happens to be connected to my wife’s FORMER employer, the Prince of Wales hotel (although it is still listed as such on her Facebook profile). The message from @missmusingdotca was deleted almost as fast as it was written (not fast enough), and I guess she decided it would be better to toss out her subtle threats via an anonymous account instead. #FAIL
Then, on December 12, 2015 (just the other day), Evelyn continued with her threats to attack my wife at her no-longer place of employment: “How much does she cherish that hotel job? I doubt you’d want her to lose it.” I mean, seriously, talk about delusions of grandeur. If the founder of Light Up Yellow weren’t so frigging stupid, I might actually be pissed off about this. Oh, and big surprise, she has since deleted the message. #TOOLATEBITCH
Now for the Pièce de Résistance – Evelyn’s bogus claim (again, on her @missmusingdotca Twitter account and her MissMusing blog) that I was once accused of being a pedophile and that I now require supervised visits with my grandchildren. I don’t think I have to tell you, but I will anyway, that this is nauseatingly untrue. But that doesn’t mean it can’t become a problem for me down the road. That’s the thing about the Internet – it doesn’t go away, and that’s the power she holds over people.
For the past fourteen months of my life, I have been involved in a bizarre on-line conflict that has resulted in the founder of MissMusing and Light Up Yellow doing everything in her power to destroy my life. And I know a lot of people reading this right now are all asking themselves the same two questions:
Why don’t you report this woman to the police? Why don’t you sue her?
Well for one, I did report her to the Niagara Regional Police after her pedophile remark, and as it turns out, the cops really don’t care. I guess in their minds, if it happens on the Internet, it doesn’t count as being illegal, nor is it considered criminally harassing or negligent. As far as they’re concerned, it’s a civil matter only.
So then why not sue her? I could, and I certainly considered it, but the reality is that she lives all the way on the other side of the country, and inside sources tell me she lives in a rented apartment with her mother, and has never worked a day in her life (I highly doubt I could prove how much money she earns from her on-line scams). I also believe she suffers from some form of mental illness and I am told that she is very abusive towards her mother. Frankly, I can’t think of a worse way to spend my money, time and energy than by relying on our lacksadaisy judicial system for help. The cops already proved that they are useless. Why should I believe that the courts would be any different?
So instead, I’m asking each of you, my readers, to help share this message and expose this woman before she does something just as bad or worse to someone else who might not be as strong as I am. It’s not like people haven’t killed themselves over less.
Let’s all stand together and help put an end to cyber-bullying for good.