Drew Barnes asked: Do you have any regrets in life? What is the one dream or inspiration that you want to accomplish? Who is your biggest hero?
Everyone regrets something in life. I think I read somewhere that it’s not good to have regrets, but I personally think that’s a load of bullshit. You can always treat other people better. You can always help more. You can always make more of an honest effort to be true to yourself. Do I have regrets? You bet your ass I do. But I don’t live in the past. Regrets are lessons for the future. What’s done is done. All I can do moving forward is to live the best possible life that I know how, from the valuable (and painful) lessons that I have been fortunate enough to gain along the way. That’s all anyone can do. And should be doing. Always live your best life possible.
I’m a dreamer. I always have been. To say that I have one dream would be like saying I only enjoy eating one potato chip. I thrive on new challenges and it was today in fact that I was reminded of an old goal of mine from when I was 20-years old (managing World Gym in London, Ontario) that still holds true to this day. My goal had always been to make every single mistake possible, but only to make each of them once. To me, that seemed like the absolute best way to learn about life. I’m proud of the mistakes that I’ve made. My mistakes are definitely not on my list of regrets. I wouldn’t be who I am today otherwise, and in the immortal words of Stuart Smalley: “I like me.” My dreams are simple: To keep learning and growing.
My biggest hero made such an incredible impact on my life that I was immediately inspired to write a book about the struggles that he has endured over the past three years. I’m talking about Will Ribeiro of course. He is humble and generous and kind and everything that a true fighter should be. Respectful. Compassionate. Resolute. Forgiving. All of this and he suffers. To me, that is a hero because no matter how bad life gets, he still finds a way to live the life that I aspire to some day achieve. I admire him for that. We can all learn from Will Ribeiro and his struggles. As it turns out, the word “hero” is an understatement.
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